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Old Sun, Dec-09-2012, 01:26:20 PM   #1
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So my girlfriend and I live in a condo complex in a unit which i purchased last year in october. We live on the 2nd floor of a 3 floor unit.

We have an upstairs neighbor, who has a 3 year old boy. Mind you, ive seen kids, know what they act like, but this kid is just beyond anything imaginable. He gets up every morning at 6am, and runs around the living room, kitchen, and every room imaginable. When i say run, i actually mean jump, stomp, scream, whatever. the ceiling vibrates with all of his noise, and probably 1/2 the time, wakes up the girlfriend up. Im a heavy sleeper so it doesnt bother me, until im home after work in the evenings trying to enjoy my dinner and watch some tv and hes doing the same crap.

We have a playground in our gated condo community, so I dont get why his mom/dad cant take him outside and let him run till he gets tired out. I have already gone up to try and have a rational conversation with the parents. Open opening the door, the mother immediately gave me attitude when I brought up the issue. some quotes word for word from her:

"hes a kid, what do you expect?"
"he gets up at 6am, wtf do you want me to do"
"deal with it."

There are also days where his mom tries to get him out of the car and he throws a temper tantrum. we upstairs parking and downstairs parking and sometimes he will throw a temper tantrum and just lay in the middle of the street in the downstairs parking garage and scream and kick, basically making it impossible to go around him. With all of this, i dont think his parents seem to care. im sure you get the point. Now ive already written an email to the HOA manager who supposedly issued them a warning notice. this was probably 3 months ago in the summer. Things have not improved. I have also tried to talk to them a 2nd time which lead to almost getting into a physical altercation with the father.

Im trying to figure out what my options are. I do not have any intention to move. I like everything else about my unit. Can i call the police and file some kind of noise/disturbing the peace complaint? Is there any pressing way to take legal action?

I wrote another email today to the HOA manager and will wait to see what he says. I will also be attending the next HOA board meeting which is held once a month to address this issue.

Any advice/options would be appreciated.

thanks.
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Well I'm pretty sure you can't call the cops for noise complain at 6am. If the kid makes a lot of noise at 2am that's a different story. Have you tried to video tape the shaking ceiling etc? It's hard to understand the degree of annoyance the kid causes in writing. Hate to say it but I think you are shit out of luck. I mean if you were the parents what would you do? Can't shut a 3 years old up if the 3 years old wouldn't shut up
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if i was the parent id take him outside i mean. seriously. theres a playground outside next to the swimming pool. kid can run around all he wants out there. live about half a mile from a park, and half a mile from a huge mall, so those are options as well.

honestly, if i was a parent, saying i cant control my kid deal with it is not a viable option, but this kid has single handedly confirmed my decision about not wanting kids. period.
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I understand how 3 year old kids can get a little noisy. As for laying in the little of the road having a temper tantrum? I think those parents have no discipline for that child. Nothing for nothing that is pretty dangerous for a child to lay in the middle of the parking garage.


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So is murder not an option?

Going by the road rage/assault thread, my recommendation is to keep a gun between your legs and shoot them.
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My condo has an HOA which dictates quiet hours are between 9pm and 8am. I'm not sure if yours has any rules, but if so they are clearly violating them. We had a similar issues, but the upstairs kid was practicing the tuba after 9pm and before school in the morning. Went to our front office and complained and haven't heard the tuba (outside of quiet hours) since...

If you don't have set quiet hours, I would make a habit of knocking on their door (when their kid wakes up) and ensuring they wake up with their kid, and politely asking them to ask the child to quiet down.
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Kids are a major pain in the A! If you don't have kids you'll never understand. The best you can do is hope they move soon, or the kid chills out as he grows up. I guess you could always try and sell your place?



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So is murder not an option?

Going by the road rage/assault thread, my recommendation is to keep a gun between your legs and shoot them.
This is good advice.
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Just keep sending notices to the HOA. They may not be able to do anything in the short term, but you'll establish a record of complaints. And perhaps they will get fines. But yeah, you're probably SOL.
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